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If You Aren’t Treated the way you Want to be, Then Stop Calling it Love
If this doesn’t exist, love is irrelevant
It has taken me the extent of my adult life to understand that I don’t understand.
In fact, what I’ve learned is that most people don’t see love the same way, or even in the same light. It’s something to be attained, or desired, or wanted, all while people are in a committed relationship where it needs to already exist.
I’m not 30 yet, and about half of my married friends have now been divorced once or in endless salvage. I don’t think my friends signed on to pay for the cost of a wedding only for it to go to waste in a few short years. I don’t think either party is considering that anguish or misery.
Somewhere, in the beginning of any relationship, it’s understood. It won’t take more than a few dates to feel your partner out, emotionally.
You’ll know about how much you’ll receive. You’ll get a sense of the baggage. Their treatment of you — with you present and absent — will be clear in time.
Yet, we stay on.
These are things that I’m not immune to. In fact, I’ve witnessed myself submitting to things I shouldn’t have.
